Ill-Advised Charity: It’s About Perspective

In "Toxic Charity" Robert Lupton lists the progression of ill-advised charity (pg 130):

• Give once and you elicit appreciation;
• Give twice and you create anticipation;
• Give three times and you create expectation;
• Give four times and it becomes entitlement;
• Give five times and you establish dependency.

Make sure your giving is reciprocal by nature and purposefully creates inter-dependency. It may not make you feel good in the moment, but will provide others with a life-time of accomplishment. It will be more difficult, but will yield positive and lasting results.